Honestly, Who Even Knows Anymore
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women should lift weights because it prevents osteoporosis in old age and makes you a more capable person in everyday life please shut up about butts and waists and hourglasses i’m going to fucking kill
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genuine question from someone who would rather chew their arm off than go to a public gym, and also doesnt have a lot of money: how do you safely get into strength training? are there youtube channels, apps (android), etc anyone recommends that makes it approachable and don’t lean into diet culture / body shaming?
also the biggest thing that keeps me from working out is that I already have joint and spinal issues and moving the wrong way can fuck up a knee or a shoulder or my spine for days. I really don’t want to injure myself, and have unwittingly done so before. resources that are extremely clear on exactly how to move and offer gentler / alternative ways to move for people with limited range are vital.
Okay, so this may not technically be strength training, but muscles are dumber than bricks and cannot tell the difference between your own bodyweight and actual weights.
So, may I recommend:
He runs a YouTube channel where he goes over how to work your way up to more complex exercises (for instance, his pull-ups videos start with using a door jamb and moving your weight back and forth) so it’s good for easing yourself into things.
You also don’t have to fork out for expensive weights and such if you don’t want to/can’t. Substitute with stuff you either already have at home or can get from the supermarket and build up the weight you can exercise with. 500 gram cans of butter beans then 750 gram bottles of pasta sauce. 1 litre drink bottle then your 1.5 litre milk bottle. 3 litre bulk-buy bottle of laundry detergent. Etc. One of my dogs weighs 13 kilos and I pick her up on the regular (to her delight). One weighs 16 kg and I pick him up too (to his consternation and mild disapproval). You don’t have to fit out some fancy home gym before you can start strength training.
I second Hybrid Calisthenics, that’s the program I use. It’s run by one guy who’s taken it upon himself to make exercising more accessible and it’s completely free! Each exercise has different variations based on your ability and each variation is further divided into different levels of difficulty so you can work up to where you want to be. If you can’t do a single push up for example then this program will help you work up to the point where you can, and if you’re a master of push ups then there are more advanced body weight exercises you can tackle so you can keep moving forward in your training without stagnating. The routine offers a full body workout with absolutely no equipment required for the beginning levels. The only reason you would need to buy anything is if you want to work up to a full pull up, at which point you would need actual pull up rings
Here’s his actual website which I feel is easier to navigate than the YouTube channel on its own and organizes things in a way that’s easy to understand. He explains everything you need to know about the routine and each individual exercise has both a text description and a video tutorial
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Fine then *changes my character design so that my hair that was previously tied back either to show youthful naivety or refined countenance is now hanging looser to signify the slackened grip I have on my emotions and moral compass* make me your villain
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Listen to me. Listen to me. Listen to me. Listen to me.
I know there is a lot of discourse ™ around this right now but listen to me
sometimes you do just have to lie to children.
If, when my toddler is, you know, toddling around saying “mama? Big ball?”
If I were lean down and say “unfortunately the big beach ball for some reason fills you with such an unadulterated rage that is beyond human comprehension that you scream until you pass out, so mama had to remove the beach ball from the premises until you can better regulate your emotions” she would simply stare at me like I had 3 heads full of equal betrayal.
So, for now, instead “big ball went night night!”
Please understand when I say “removed the ball from the premises” I mean I popped it in a fit of exhausted confusion. I murdered the beach ball.
See I’ve lied to you all too and it was better this way.
you can’t just leave this in the tags etc.
You can’t be funnier then me on my own posts, I’m in tears from laughter
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Listen, if you interrupt me with a new task while I’m midway through another, you aren’t allowed to be mad when I switch to the new task immediately. You clearly thought the new task was important enough to interrupt me with it!
I am just a little pikmin! You’re the one with the whistle!!
‘You need to learn to prioritise’ no YOU do! You’re the one dishing out tasks!! All I need to do is take things back to the onion!
Also, I have the ADHD! If you stop me while I’m doing X and ask me to do Y, I will immediately switch to doing Y because THAT IS THE ONLY WAY IT IS GETTING DONE. I do not have the option of finishing X and then getting around to Y, I will 100% forget and I know this about myself from years and years of experience of living in my brain.
You ask an ADHD person to do something, you’re getting it RIGHT NOW or NEVER. Those are the only two times.
Welcome to time blindness, enjoy your visit, I live here.
Okay this is so true and SAME but queue managers and alarms are a godsend.
Them: Hey can you Y?
Me: Sure. *sticks Y in my queue manager, keeps on working X*
(some time passes)
Alarm: *goes off*
Me: Huh, time to check the Quest Journal. Well I’m done with X and I was fiddling around with A, but apparently next up is Y.
Me: *starts working Y*
Yes there are absolutely people who don’t understand that they can generate 20 requests for everyone one I can fulfill. Yes there are times that X does need to be stopped and Y started even though that’s gonna be horribly inefficient bc it’s better for me to finish X than to start Y until X is finished. Yes when the alarm goes off I also need to sometimes take some time to shuffle the order of the things in the queue.
But having a queue manager and something that reminds me to use it are how I went from ADD “cannot focus, tests well but doesn’t complete homework, easily distracted” to responsible adult who gets things done.
For some of us our internal software is just shit for certain tasks so we need to delegate those tasks to external software.
Does anyone have recommendations for queue manager apps? I want something that would be easy for my students to use and financially reasonable (hopefully free–they’re students). I may also be asking for me - task management has never been my forte.
Okay so wow this is getting notes and asks and messages (thank you all! I’m glad you are curious and hopeful!) so I’ll share what I’ve learned.
- I started with Wunderlist bc it was beautiful and simple and the phone app synched with the web app synched with the desktop app.
- Microsoft bought Wunderlist and turned it into Microsoft To Do. They made it ugly and awkward and buggy.
- I still use MS To Do. The phone app (mostly) synchs with the tablet app and web app
and desktop appoh wait the desktop app is giving me login problems. I use it because it’s familiar. I don’t love it at all. But you don’t need to love it it just needs to work for you. I am in the process of migrating from MS ToDo to a rather complicated project management system. More on that later. - If I had to start over again I might use Notion. Or Zenkit. Both are a bit of overkill. But both worked well enough when I tried them.
- ToDoIst was also nice. As was AnyList. As was Remember The Milk. At the time I tried them, their prices (more than free) were too high.
If you wish to avoid MS ToDo, here’s what I recommend your queue manager have:
- Mobile app or highly usable fast mobile website. You need it with you as much as your phone is with you.
- Ease of entry. This is job one. You need to be able to whip it open, jot down “frim the jib jab” and forget it. If there are login screens, Click To Add An Item Now Enter The Title Now Enter A Description Do You Want To Save YN Are You Sure then forget it. You won’t use it.
- Ease of reading the whole list at once. See #2.
- If you do any work at at a computer, you’ll want some kind of desktop access. Web app, desktop app. Synching needs to happen automagically and RELIABLY. If you feel you cannot trust your queue manager, you won’t use it.
- Blindingly easy manual sorting. Drag and drop please. No “click to move up one.” Just be able to grab an item and move it up, down, between.
- Automatic Sorting as an option. Ideally saved as a preference. Sort completed at the bottom, new at the top, or whatever works for you. I personally ADD at the bottom, and when I “star” an item it moves to the top.
- Minimal metadata per item. A Note is good. Subtasks are iffy. They can be nice to help you make a checklist and to break down a large thing into smaller things. But they also just add complexity and then you’re managing your queue manager, and it’s not managing your queue. Worse, the subtasks are buried under another layer — you can’t see them at a glance when you look ar your queue.
- Nice to have: Multiple lists, with blindingly easy moving of an item from one list to another.
How I use my queue manager:
- Multiple lists: I have 3: “Now, Next, Someday.” I use Now for “right now, hopefully today but we’ll see.” I use Next for “at the top of my mind, maybe this week” and Someday for “yeah that’s a dream, I sure hope I get to it someday.” When a timer goes off on Fridays I peek thru all of them and try to make them match reality.
- Limits on “now.” I try to keep the Now list less than 8 items and the Next list to less than 20. If that means moving some items to Next because they’re not gonna get done today, or moving some away from Next into Someday then that’s what I do. There’s nothing demotivating like a queue that you “should do” that keeps growing and growing. Thats what the Someday list is for. Keep your “now” small….. if it runs empty you can always pull some in from the “next” list!
- Add at bottom, star to top, move around otherwise. I default new items to go to the bottom of the queue. That means I’m more likely to actually work it as a queue. If something comes in that truly needs to jump to the top, I have MS Todo set so that when I press the “star” on the right of the item, it just jumps to the top.
- Timers. I have three each day (morning noon evening) to remind me to check the queue. I have one on Fridays to remind me to do some Queue Gardening. That’s when I’ll move things between the different lists, look at how many I got done this week, and try to be honest with myself about what I really think I can get done next week.
- Compassionate Review. See the above on my Friday timer. When you look back WITHOUT JUDGMENT at what you got done and adjust your plans for the next day/week accordingly, you actually get better at estimating what’s realistic.
- Allow your methods to evolve. When I started doing this I had items on my queue like “med 1,” “med 2,” “med 3,” “shower,” “breakfast,” “email 15m max.” Over time, making and checking off those things has collapsed the morning into a single “start the day” item with a checklist in the item notes. I’m currently experimenting with a whole separate list for new “big” items, which I ignore until Fridays when I then assign them to one of my “now, next, someday” lists. We’ll see how it works out.
- Keep. It. Simple. Many softwares will add features they claim will help you be more productive. Due dates. Reminders. Sharing. Approvals (!) Integration with email, twitter, your water faucet. Sub-lists and sub-sub-lists and sub-sub-sub-lists. No. You just want to manage the queue. You just want to be able to quickly look at the queue and have an answer to “what’s next” or “Ive just watched 2 hours of TOTK videos what was I supposed to be working on again?”
Hope this helps some o’ y’all. Peace.
great recommendations!
a simple way to do this is to make calendar items for everything - this is how I manage holding down a demanding full-time job, running a nonprofit, keeping up a writing and editing career, and maintaining relationships with people who don’t understand time-blindness
I just use Google calendar, which is free on android devices, but I’m sure there’s a ton more like it
make calendar items repeat for stuff you do daily (“brush teeth,” “eat breakfast,” etc if you need that granular level of reminders), weekly (like “buy groceries”), monthly (“pay bills” is a biggie), annually (every important date), and so on
set reminders not only for when things are due, but also a second one enough in advance to be able to get stuff done if you’ve forgotten (assume that’ll always happen, so know how much time you’ll need to Do The Things before deadline, like buying presents for anniversaries). I sometimes even use a third or fourth reminder if The Thing needs several stages of prep
it can be handy to use colors to differentiate work vs family etc, or put them into different email calendars and then have those all show up in a central calendar you can see all at once
it’s not only helped me stay on top of stuff, it’s been vital for maintaining my sanity
^^ Yes this! I do the same @mckitterick — I have two gcals for actual appointments and a different one for all the Regular Life Chores that NT people seem to be able to… just remember to do all the time.
I would stress: START SMALL. Do NOT spend hours putting everything into your calendar that you wish you could do. Learn from my mistake of over-designing my timer/queue manager. I made this beautiful system that then I ignored bc it was too many notifications and I quickly developed notification tolerance. 🥴
+1 to setting reminders not just for Thing Due but also Start Working On Thing. As an added bonus, seeing this shit visually on the calendar (by day, by week, even *woah* by month) is almost like a vision aid for time blindness.
But yeah start with a few critical things and try to make it work for those things. Make changes to your system as you need to to keep it relevant and make it work for YOU. As you become more comfy with it, then you can start adding more things. Don’t overdesign/overplan: Fuck Around with it and Find Out what works.
seeing this visually on the calendar is like a vision aid for time-blindness
OMG yes, well-said, @hug-your-face !
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I need a Thank u Mr Terry tag
Pardon me, but I needed to read your tags tonight.
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i’m gonna be honest i didn’t even read the tweet because i had to hit reblog too fast when i saw this guy’s name is “i like hitting police because i am homosexual”
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I want to apologise to
- Britney for making fun of her when she had her breakdown
- Monica Lewinski for judging her when she was a 22year old temp sexually assaulted by the most powerful man in the world
- Ke$ha for ever thinking she was trashy when all she wanted to do was make party music
- Kristen Stewart for ever thinking she was dumb when she’s actually one of the coolest people ever
- Megan Fox for ever thinking she was just a slut when actually she was an actress being harassed by her employer.
- Hating all the women who made a career out of having a hot body. Being is shape is hard, beauty is a weapon and auto promotion is hard work.
- All the Mary-Sues, who exist because young girls everywhere want to be part of a story they love so much
- All the female characters I ever snobbed because they got in the way of my ship.
- Hating the color pink during my teenage years, when it’s actually a lovely color and what I resented was society’s pressure to perform femininity.
This is what sexism does. The media runs a smear campaign against women. And when we were younger we knew no better and trusted them. Now we know better.
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